FaMily 💛💚💙❤💜

Spent the weekend staying at home with the Pangs. I'm so happy as I miss them much! after spending 27 years together of cos! 

reminds me that I'm the big sister, and the responsibility of being one. the ability to be a pillar has given me great strength and taught me to look beyond my own personal problem. 

mum having a little difficulty with health. I'm sure she's not beaten but just shocked by how things came to her one after another. On route on bell palsy recovery and an onset of menopause. I'm sure it's not an easy time for any lady to bear. dad has been there supporting mum these whole time but as children, we can do better! with 4 of us together supporting mum, it will cheer her on more and lighten the stress on dad. 

thing is, not all the pillars are strong now. Struggling with each of our problems and challenges in our individual life, we have weakened.

I realized when we look from a different perspective, start to look out of our small litttle circle, we can see our problems are real small. there are still many blessings we can count! 

At some point, we have to stop looking within on our own problems. 

I want to be there more for my family, support my mum to go thru this rough patch and pull the bro and sis along to shoulder more responsibility because we all have to now, as adults.

Life is not easy breezy but we must still remember to count our blessings! With each day, we have a another chance to make it better.

Fighting!💪

What is a successful day like?

Recently saw a tweet asking what is your definition of a successful day?
Ellen Huerta mentioned for her, it is a day where she have been present and compassionate.

Tuned into 100.3fm every night when the hubby is not around, i realized how much i have missed the radio and definitely the chinese songs that I've grew up with. Heard a snippet over radio, an interview with Xie Anqi, a Hongkong singer. She has a new album dedicated to successful women and to encourage the ladies in today's world. A measure of a women's success is not just about career but how she managed her family. If she has handled both very well, people will then judged her on her appearance and dressing. How tough it is to be successful, in other people's terms...

We can say easily that we don't let the world judge us, but it is so easy to be a culprit. My success depends on how my boss appraise me for the year, getting promoted is almost equal to being successful! If you are in the rat race, that is how the game is.

Must always remember your self worth, outside of your career. Work is huge part of life ever since graduation, but it is not something that can consume all of my time (equals to life), that whatever left of me after work, is for me to enjoy my family & friends.

So when I think about my definition of a successful day...
It is a day where I have done the needful at work and maintain my bond with my family & friends or building new bond with my "new family".

Am really tempted to include quality time spent with self where i can reflect. kinda stretch target! Review this next time if that can be included.

One thing at a time!

Now I just want to lie in my cosy bed! :)

Imagination

the power to imagine pain of others when you not have to experience it yourself; empathy.
you can choose to shut yourself from all of these, apathy is an evil in itself.
then you have merely existed, and not lived.

Cognitive Dissonance

one of the more unlikeable human attributes, self justification.

this protective mechanism enables us to sleep peacefully at night and frees us from self doubt. We see what we want to see, ignore everything else that contradicts our view. we look for arguments that reinforce our position. 

why do we find it so difficult to realize our mistakes?

there's often a big gap between what we think and what we do...

freaking fast!

nowadays the week just flew past, it's Friday night already. phew.. day in day out.. spending time on work, albeit more interesting, but I'm wondering if I'm making things better? because I'm so sucked into the task of doing and getting it out my way, I didn't think of more efficient ways or new processes to compete it in the future... How to make it better? my boss challenged me to always think about this... almost 2 months into the job already.... I better start having antenna up!

Routine is tough?

If someone can follow a standard routine thru out for a few years I really 佩服！Because that is consistency! it's so tough to be so consistent (predictable)!

For me, routine will reap my soul off! I'll become dead... sometime 一帆风顺 also not a real blessing. Anyway, 一种米养百种人，all sorts of people with different preferences. That's why this world is interestingly beautiful! 🌈

我不禁地感到惭愧。

Remember the day I said I need to be tough?

It turned out the day I became my boss's worse nightmare...

I feel frozen in time for 2 days, reasoning with myself in the head of how this episode can be avoided. People and tea mates are kind to speak that it's not our responsibility. Kind words are soothing to the ears but not a total truth I can rationalize.

Yesterday night JQ said something really woke me up when I told him I really don't understand why I didn't think of this...

"when you are rushing for time, things get missed out."

Time and time again we were told not to rush, but I didn't stand against it when I felt rushed.

This morning, I have another conversation which set my thinking straight too. Just a simple instruction to him to pass some tools to another colleague and he recommended a bigger version of the tool that he has! It does not fit the purpose but I thank him for showing me the tool!

He replied, because it is for my work area, so I want to give the best!

:) He has such pride and ownership in his work.

His name is Palani, he's from India.

Be tough!

Negativity everywhere, complains... grumbles... swearing... scolding...

We all need a dose of positivity everyday!!

Today I shall be as tough as this kitty!

Heartbeat part 2.

went to have my heartbeat check by another doc and he says I'm perfectly fine and I have a slow and steady heartbeat of less than 60/min!

I wonder why the diff.. think the other doc got problem with his machine and refuse to accept it!

anyway I downloaded an app that can measure heartbeat by requesting your index finger over the camera! I think it's awesome cos I cannot figure out how it works! haha

And yes my heartbeat is 55/min.

Heartbeat.

stress management program in the office, the last time and the first time in my life someone told me I have erratic heartbeat.

Told me to go get an ECG.
Don't give a hood.
Today review again.

Same erratic heart leh.
MAYBE I'll make an effort to walk to the clinic tmr morning and speak to the doc.

I feel totally fine, other than my 每况愈下的fitness, restlessness at work....

still ok lah!

我居然败给了。。。pms!

Started the year with this resolution and something that I'm actively tracking: The angry emotion.

Maybe what happened last weekend was not surprising but it does strip the truth naked in front of me.

Pms affects my mood! guess I already know but glad to have a stronger awareness of it's destructiveness. Strong enough to make to me unable to hold it back even on a leash. I wanted to let it go but I just couldn't know how to feel cheerful again by changing my emotion. I attempted, really.

But of cos, JQ came in to save the day again but coaxing me and held my hand... :) And then with a hug it just went away...🎉

Problem is, how to manage this part of the month better?

I'll soon find out...

first breach of the space of choice.

At this scenario I've unknowingly gave up my option and dash across the space and became angry.

why so?

impolite people just irks me, I guess.
especially someone whom I'm suppose to look up to...

they don't earn my respect but maybe it doesn't matter cos I'm suppose to refer to my previous post.

extinguish the anger now and don't let it consume me and the rest of my day! :)

口是心非。

I think I need to be more like that.

Watch and learn.

脾气performance!

I've got 1 occasion that I was tested. Think I did well cos I didn't loss my cool with an angry cleaner at the hawker!

at that point in time, there's awareness and yes, I do have a choice on which emotion to display.

Now need to 持之以恒, to keep practicing it! After a while (21 days? 60 days?) it can become a habit!

These few nights we have been watching this show, Game of T hro nes before going to bed. I think it's a bad idea, I haven't been sleeping well! Disturbed by my dreams! like escaping 2 nights ago, play dead cos someone wants to kill me last night! argh!!! No more!

好脾气，是最佳服饰！

On some days I can easily lose my cool. Getting irritable and easily agitated at people around me, especially people that i do not know. 

Like entering a shop and receive a poor service, I'll easily give a frowning face and be impolite. 

I don't think poor service is norm and should be accepted but it's my behavior that I'm unhappy with. 

I don't need to react the way i did. I don't need to be nice but i can just don't be angry and walk off if I know i'm done.

I don't like the emotion call angry.

I want to learn to be more tolerable towards situation that will be tossed in my way.

You are strong enough

had a bad day at work starting this week but what the hell... who doesn't have bad day... set backs.. trip and fall... unhappy people especially with you.

came home and pour my sorrows to my darling and he's always there to pick me up! I'm so lucky in this life to have awesomest people who matters to me!

He was so sweet when he told me, in the morning before he left for work, he saw a sun ray peeping through the curtains and it's shining on my face. He came over to hug me and cos he felt so loved and happy to be married.

And that made me cried.

I truly blessed.

resources

if I had all the time in the world, what would I do?

if I had infinite time on my side, what would I do?

time to start dreaming.

Quote from a principle

Do not let a number define who you are.

Good Morning, Gonna Rain.

the sky looks like its going to release a curtain of rain. I thank god I'm in the bus already.

I carried this thought to sleep last night. somewhere between a realization and a reflection that I drifted to sleep.

met someone and he asked me, hey you worked in oil n g as coy can you tell me what's the implication of exploring shale gas?

erm, a very superficial reply. I only know that it's natural gas. my pl ant is still using crude as feed.

he went on to talk about geo politics.. reliance on middle e ast countries for energy sources...

everyday I click into my coy intra net I can see news like this but I didn't bother to spend the time to read it. working days are always zooming pass me, I'm lucky if I can leave work on time. That makes me so micro and how I fail to look at the big picture of things!

要放眼看世界！

this Friday I'm meeting my batch who entered the coy together. the last time we took leave from work and hang out for a day of KTV and steam boat! boy oh boy.. that was 3 years ago...

tell me about time.. if you can hear it, it's ticking every second away.

one after another

one busy weekend racing down boat quay is done! came
home with nothing this time round..

up next is the cousin's wedding.. yet another busy week.

thinking of which, busy is like the new normal.

So let's just say it's another normal week for me!!!